Wisdom christian dating
The longer the relationship, the higher the percentage.
Where a relationship is shorter, accountability stronger, and the level of temptation, and the likelihood of sin, goes down.
We might even say that getting to know one another better and more deeply is (up to a certain limited point, of course) the very of a dating relationship.
When two people are dating — especially when it’s going well and two people are really into one another — the desire to spend more and more time together, to know each other better and better, to confide in each other more and more often and exclusively, is overwhelming.
In that context, living with the desires I’ve just described, how likely do you think it is that over the course of two or three or four years — some couples date over most of their college years — you will be able to maintain enough emotional discipline and distance to avoid acting emotionally and relationally “married”?
I’ve spoken to numerous “long-dating” couples, in college and beyond, who other than living together, could do little to intertwine their lives any more than they already are.
It’s still really easy to “act married” emotionally, even in a long-distance relationship.
If we act like we’re married before we’ve made that commitment, we’re defrauding (and sinning).Can this level of emotional intimacy happen between people who have been dating for a shorter amount of time? But the longer a couple dates, the harder it becomes to avoid it.Scripture calls Christians to “flee” from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians ), not to “see how difficult we can make the temptation and still prevail” or to “see how close to the line we can get without sinning.” In my view, Scripture teaches clearly that there is to be romantic physical intimacy outside of marriage.I don’t know whether you’ve noticed this, but people involved in a dating relationship tend to get to know each other better over the course of that relationship.In fact, they are usually really enthusiastic about doing so.