My best friend is dating another guy
“Even if common interest seems to be there, this is a big one,” Sam says.“Saying, ‘I'm just being single right now,’ or ‘I’m focusing on work,’ or the like is the worst, because that person is implying that a good relationship would hinder their life!HE LETS YOU KNOW IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO TALK You could call his cell at 4 a.m. Face it—if he saw you as totally platonic, there's no way he'd answer the phone at that hour. HE TRIES TO GET IN GOOD WITH YOUR FRIENDS By being nice to your friends (like, going with you to your best friend's soccer match and cheering her on or giving her love advice for her guy troubles) he's trying to become a part of your everyday world .It's a well-thought-out strategy: His goal is to eventually (and hopefully soon!“From my experience, women hate the idea of clearly explaining their interest.It may not be as ‘romantic’ as you’d like, but at the end of the day, if a guy is not sure about your interest, he won't swing.”3. Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? Jeff, a 45-year-old ad agency owner, instantly hit it off with a female co-worker, who he was interested in pursuing after he moved on to a new job. A collection of mixed signals, like skipping my goodbye happy hour and ghosting me on some texts that dropped hints about grabbing dinner,” he says.Just because you and your best pal are hot for each other doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to end in dating—we all like having attractive friends, especially men as very “visual” creatures.But that doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t go anywhere.
“But since many of the same characteristics that we would seek in a romantic relationship are the same ones we seek in a platonic relationship, it is no surprise that many friends find each themselves interested in each other.”If it hasn’t gone anywhere just yet, here’s why—from the perspective of single men.1. If you only see your guy friend sporadically, you might not be on his relationship radar just yet.Even confident guys freak at the thought of you saying you’re “just not that into him,” says Connor, a 24-year-old music management rep.“Even if you think you're 99 percent sure there's something there, there will always be a little ‘What if I'm wrong? “I would be super-embarrassed around my friends if I thought there was something going on, and then I tried to act on it. In fact, some of your very best friends are probably members of the opposite sex.Now, that said, you might still have questions about how your single guys see you—particularly that friend in your circle with whom sparks always fly.