Dating in high school is overrated

A specialness that implies he doesn’t do this with a lot of other girls, and she doesn’t do this with a lot of other boys. I can imagine an exceptional situation in our culture where two young people are extraordinarily mature and spiritual and marriage is planned for age eighteen — right after high school.

In other words, pretty quickly people who are doing things together because they like each other are going to feel some sense of proprietary action here, some possessiveness, a kind of desire for some special focus or qualified commitment, not marriage, not engagement, but something else. My generation said, “going steady.” Now that seems to imply something that to me is absolutely natural. Such relationships seem perfectly natural and good. The question becomes, “Is it wise for a sixteen-year-old to step into that river that flows towards marriage? That would be, it seems to me, a remarkable exception that proves the wisdom of the rule — namely, that the maturity level of teenagers is not great enough to make such massive decisions.

So, is dating in high school foolish but occasionally fruitful?

Or is it potentially a good place to find a strong and godly spouse?

He is author of more than 50 books, including Is dating in high school harmful? “Hi, Pastor John, my name is Josh, and I’m a high school student. Most people who I value as close friends and God loving people say that it’s mostly pointless and dumb to date in high school.

For these reasons, the term dating or courting has become extinct.

Social media has a big effect on the way dating has changed.

It definitely has changed some intimate relationships, though whether or not the change is positive or negative is largely dependent on the couple.

In other words, it doesn’t follow that because godly people you know married early, that dating early is a good idea. Whether you see dating at age fifteen, sixteen, or seventeen as wise will depend partly on your view of sexual relations, partly on your view of the meaning of dating, and partly on your view of the relative maturity of teenagers.

I think the Bible settles the question of sexual relations for us clearly — namely, sexual relations are for marriage.

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