Dating an asian man

Because here’s the kicker: Sarah is Asian-American. Mine came from mainland China.“If things don’t work out,” she said, “would it hurt your confidence? It’s shockingly common to come across profiles that say, “Sorry, no Asians.”Maybe Asian men need better representation.

When I was growing up, there were no mainstream movies like “Crazy Rich Asians” putting a spotlight on attractive Asian leading men.

Born and raised in America’s former Wild West (she in Texas, I in Colorado), we had read “Little House on the Prairie” and learned to square-dance in cowboy boots.

We’d both spent time on the football field — she in the marching band, I as a strong safety.

She loves country music and, well, I don’t country music.

Over dinner, we connected when we opened up about our strained relationships with our mothers and how we came into our own when we went to college out of state.

I was never in want of attention; in fact, I probably received more because I was one of the few Asian students in school.

I could be embarrassed by my parents’ broken English at parent-teacher conferences, but what boy isn’t embarrassed by his parents?

"Asian4Asian," the billboard read, in an oversized font: "That's not Racist."One user on Reddit posted a photo of the sign with the single-word rejoinder, "Kinda," and the sixty-something comments that followed teased apart the the moral subtleties of dating within or outside of one's own ethnicity or race.

Reading through the thread feels like opening a Pandora's Box, the air suddenly alive with questions that are impossible to meaningfully answer.

"It's like this bag of jackfruit chips I got in a Thai grocery store that read ' Ecoli = 0' on the nutritional information," one user wrote.

One thing was clear, though: As I heard the click of the door opening — the door that would shut me out of her life — I realized I was mistaken about me having enough confidence for both of us. Many months later, after more dates, kisses and moments of vulnerability over stinky tofu, we decided to get married. 31, 2019, we will be tying the knot in my home state.

Sarah thought she knew how she wanted her life to play out.

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